I believe it was several weeks ago that I indicated I would not post again. I felt the things I had asked about had been at least partially answered. I met several friends who were helpful in my effort to at least start on the road to Rome. But now I see that all was in vain. So let me state my position as clearly as possible; of course not responding to every nuance unless you ask .
As a non-Catholic I recognized that Vatican2 had established [or re-established] a process know today as RCIA. Many Catholics will be familiar with this 'program'. But it is obvious that three positions have been taken toward this Rite.
One, the Council of Bishops see this rite as a reaching out to non-christians and "christians" alike, but making a distinction between the two groups in the spirit of ecumenism. The Bishops made it quite clear that differences must be recognized between baptized "Christians" and those who have not been baptized. This would seem to be the official position of the church. And a very logical position.
Two, a second group almost, if not completely, rejects the distinction between candidates--baptized "Christians" and cathechumen--non baptized persons and do not believe the guidelines have any signicance.
Three, the third group agrees mainly with what the bishops say but argue that while a distinction might be made on paper it is a minor difference and treating the two group--baptized "Christians" and non- christians is not really significant on the grounds that RCIA is an introduction to catholicism and should be taken by all, or that placing the two groups together is a small price for the baptize "christian" to pay for admission the the Church. {Incidentally I put quotes around "christian" so a person such as Ray Ryland, so typical of the zeaoltry associated with "converts" can continue to uphold "triumphalism" or his rather oblique admiration for that position}
I think these distinctions between between the baptized and the unbaptized are important. The church is careful not be rebaptize, showing clearly a distinction. The RCIA program is clearly designed mainly for the unbaptized and to prepare the candidates as if they were to be rebaptized-- as practiced many places --- casts serious aspersions on those baptized persons desiring to unite with the Roman Catholic Church. And, of course, the scrutinies, the dismissal, etc it seems to most scholars and the Bishops to be designed for the catechumen.
Let me speak briefly to the third group--the oh, what difference does it make group. While the whole intent of RCIA is to be helpful and no one questions the RCIA leaders are gracious--to some, and I am one, the clear message to the candidates it "You have lived in greivous error for years as has probably your family, but now we are going to wipe that out. Despite the fact that you belonged to some other group calling itself "christian" we will start at the very beginning and give you a second chance." Much to the delight of Rev. Ryland. And possibly some other zealots.
It is clear to many that this attack on RCIA AS IT WAS INTENDED is closely tied with those who totally reject the spirit of Vatican2 and desire a return to pure, undisguised triumphalism
I desire to be a Catholic. But as I posted before I desire to 'walk' into the church , not "crawl"
I have tried to be as clear as possible but some recent circumstances have lessened by usual happy attitude a bit. If I have offended, with possibly one exception--the dear Reverend--then let me extend my apologies.
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Jack,
ReplyDeleteIf I understand you correctly, you feel that RCIA, by not differentiating between those already baptized as Christians and those awaiting baptism, puts into question in an insulting manner the quality of the baptism of the former. Is that right?
Is it the teaching or liturgical aspect of RCIA that makes you feel this way? If they're doing it right, the liturgy should be distinguishing between the different groups. If it's the teaching aspect, I'm not quite sure why you're reading it that way. When my fiancee was baptized, I was her sponsor at RCIA. In our group, there were cathechumens, candidates for confirmation that had been baptized Catholic but had fallen away from the Church, and candidates who were baptized in another denomination and and were preparing for confirmation and full communion with the Church. We all met together, for practical reasons as much as anything else -- we didn't have space, time, personnel, etc., for three different groups. Still, I think we all brought our own levels of knowledge to the table. Some people who knew the least about Catholicism -- or the Bible or Christianity in general -- were baptized Catholics who just never got a good religious education. I think all of us cradle Catholics should have the chance to sponsor an RCIA candidate, because we all have gaps in our knowledge.
It's another question if your RCIA instructors were insulting about your religious upbringing. Then it would be a question of finding another parish.
Oh, thank you Liam. It's hard to express emotion on the net, but I am at my end. I read and reread the statutes and they simply are not followed. It is the liturgical aspect that is totally ignored. The Council of American Bishops [?] say do this and the local churches and bishops just say {pardon me} "shove it." As my post said RCIA has two groups catechumen and candidates and there is a DISTINCT difference. I guess I'm sick then so are Vatican2 and the Bishops. I know everyone says "Oh hell, what's the difference/" But there is a difference!! and it is important to me and to Vatican2. Liam, thanks so much for responding. You have my full permission to throw me in your "crank" file. I find this whole thing almost unbelievable. thanks again, jack
ReplyDeleteJack,
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say? If there are norms set down bu the bishops, and they are good, solid, pastoral norms, they should be followed.
I haven't heard you mention this Fr. Ryland by name before. He's the one who's been giving you a hard time over this, and he's a convert himself? It is true that there is seldom zeal like a convert's. I've mentioned on my own blog before that triumphalistic "integrism" is often found in converts in a way that is alien to us who are cradle Catholics. You live in the Tulsa, Oklahoma area, if I'm not mistaken? Maybe this has something to do with it. A reverend who feels a sense of siege mentality living in the buckle of the Bible Belt. It's hard for me to imagine someone getting the kind of treatment you've been getting where I live, but I guess things aren't uniform. I wish someone could expidite this process for you, especially as you have been going through some serious health issues. I wish I could say more than "I'm sorry", but unfortunately I don't know how much more than that I can say.
jeff, you words are always appreciated. you, of course, know me better than anyone in my religious life. i do not know what to do but you and people like liam can't be expected to solve my problem. just a quote to elaborate on one part of my post.
ReplyDelete"For a parish community to ask its baptized candidates to undergo the same scruntinies as the elect is to direct one of the most damaging insults in Christendom. It rebukes the very baptism for which the elect are preparing." Paul Turner
All the excuses about efficiencies, treating everbody alike, what difference does it make? to me cannot not stand a minute against the national statutes and their logic.
you and others have been so patient. you have already done so much for me i can only repeat my thanks. thanks, also, liam.
i don't think this problem is unique to my area but has just become the easy way to do it; after all who wants to deal with a sick[mentally] and physicaly old crank from the bible belt. i wouldn't!!still a little touch of humor.
jeff, liam, one more point before you BEG the meds to pull my tubes.{just a bad joke again}. Either tonight or tomorrow i'll explain in specifics what i find demeaning.
ReplyDeletejeff, liam. i think maybe our two ships are slighty missing each other in the dark. i may be redundant from other posts and comments i've made, but i want to make another effort. I'll probably seem a bit disorganized because this post is more spontaneous than usual.
ReplyDeletejust a little 'ground cleaning'. the rev. ryland i refered to is not local but an internet poster. with an exception or two local catholics have never been rude, well with an exception or two.
i know what you probably think: if jack wants to be a catholic, why doesn't he just walk into a church and say so. that's not my style and you may say that's his weakness. but i am a little more 'indirect.' i have called the bishop's office on numerous ocassions and been told to go see your "parish" priest. no, i have not done this, but i have dropped hints as to my interest on becomming RC, but they have never been picked up. i have called at least 8 catholic churches in our city, talked personally with one priest and, okay say i'm "touchy", but none have shown any particular interest. Example: nice church RCIA director when ask if she recognized any difference between cathecuman and candidate was not familiar with any distinction. her answer:"well we can all learn more; for example as a protestant you probably think at the eucharist we take bread and wine, but , of course, we catholics know its real flesh and blood. my answer:thank you. what i wanted to say was "chemically or metaphysically?
i have told the story before of the RCIA director to whom i sent a letter along with 3 essays i was working on. answer by RCIA director: this is too heavy for me. there was nothing anti-catholic in the essays or the letter, but the material was returned to me and,
i may be paranoid, but i don't believe the director has spoken to me since. not rude, but apparently indifferent.
i have told a couple of 'horror' stories on my blog--the school incident which almost killed by wife and son, and my daughter's effort to be married at the parish my wife and her family had gone to for years. my daughter was working in virginia for 3 years and went regularly to church there. she and her husband to be were returning to our home town and wanted to be married in church where mu wife and i had been married.frosty answer from priest,"we don't marry anybody accept our parishoners." {they had a beautiful wedding in my episcopal church}. later of course they had to be "remarried" in the catholic church they attended because of canon law 5 billion 683,000, as I recall. very embarassing to her husband a former methodist who was then catholic and insulting to my son-in-laws family who thought church was being 'crappy.'
i could go on with 'horror' stories for pages so you may wonder why i am interested in RC. But first a little humor. My wonderful, sharp, but quiet son in law went through RCIA. At some state in the process the supplicants were called to the front of the church to be introduced--about 30,i believe. as their name was called each moved close to the altar to be introduced. 29 came forward and stood by the RCIA director. One young man was left standing whose name was not called. someone called out from the congregation"don't forget jimmy" and the Director stopped and said,"Oh , yes we don't want to forget jimmy p." and who is jimmy p.---well of course my son-in-law. Ha,ha, ha.
as the people were introduced many in the congregattion, innocently enough, would comment "isn't that Mrs. Swish's daughter. I thought she married a pentecostal." or "Isn't that melanic swash, i heard her husband was an alcoholic". innocent enough. but let's project ahead. jack becomes catholic. active in the community and wife well known catholic. group is introduced. comments: "isn't that alice's husband, has cancer you know, probably just a few weeks, not taking any chances." or, and i actually heard this one after a mass:"alice you've got a real load to carry with jack" refering not to any illness, but my tendency to joke, or "isn't that the H.....who was the son-in-law of the S's. i remember how they hated this marriage." Okay, lecture me, but I think that's embarassing.
So the service starts, and the supplicats are ask to leave--apparently unable to understand homily and need to be taken to a primary room to be brought up to speed, or, maybe as in the early church, not ready to view transsubstiation.
Now in the 'innocents' room. I've had a lot of advice on this: don't say anything[they would probably think i was dead}. Say what you want:Could Fatima possible be the imaginings of three mixed up adolescents{"who's that smart ass; he probably smokes chesterfields anyway."} hit a middles ground: why is the church called 'catholic?'This may seem like fun to some but it seems like a nightmare to me!
Vatican2 saw some of these dangers. Tailor RCIA to the individual as far as possible.. Don't call baptized christians "converts." don't expect those with some religious background to 'go' the full course. try to make is as least burdensome as possible,don't received baptized christians at the easter vigil, make sure that catechumen and candidates are not treated the same and on and on. In other words, my words, don't treat those with active religious backgrounds the same as those with very little background. No, No, the candidates are NO BETTER than the cathechumen but let's reach out to members of other churches.{I believe they're called "congregations" now.
It is very clear to me that the rites for the cathechumen , such as the scruntinies, have no place with the candidates. At no place in the instructions for the candidates is there any suggestion they be 'dismissed" and we could go on.Oh, i should add that many who see the difference say"but what rites will the candidates have; they'll feel left out?" Certainly the clergy could think of something---crawling the church steps--hold on Jeff, i know you hate my cheap jokes.
Well, in a nutshell that's it. Personal, yes. Anti-church? no. if vatican2 meant anything and reaching out to other 'christians' means anything then the dioceses who ignore the statutes are in the wrong. and it's more than "oh, what difference does it make."
i came to your and other sites to find answers. you've done great. but I still want to walk.
btw[first time I've used that} this "probation" thing has everyone puzzled. even clery don't know what it means. and i sure don't. apparently before a become a full member of the church i have to be on probation for a year. anna, who i love[take it the right way] first denied that there was such a thing, but then because she's smart she checked it out and found there was a probation period. How does the congregation know i'm not a "full" catholic but just a "probationary" catholic? do i wear a red tag? do i ride at the rear of the church bus? and you say there's nothing demeaning here?
I know what you guys are thinking."Shut up, jack , and go back to canterburry".But no this Church says it was set up by Christ for all. Provided you don't ask questions and object to anything said by the pope, a bishop, a priest, a RCIA director? I don't buy it. I love you guys and gals, you mean and have done a lot for me. I'm at the end of my rope, and so are you reading my rantings. The only time i ever got miffed at b was when he wrote to the effect 'this is my church, so if you don't like it, too bad.' Whose church is it? forgive me b.
I've tried to put a touch of humor[overstatement?}here so apologies to any i offended!!
I told you I was disorganized. There is a young priest in town who is trying to help me. I called it off because I know it will get him into trouble and my family in probable disfavor in the church and school.But he has no responsibility to hurt himself to help me.
Jack,
ReplyDeleteHere's a quote for you.
Ecclesiasticus (aka Sirach) 20:1
"There is the rebuke that is untimely, and there is the person who keeps quiet and he is the shrewd one.
But how much better to rebuke than to fume!"
You are, as far as I can tell, fuming. You are too mild, too indirect, in person, to tell the RCIA director that if she doesn't already know the difference between catechumen and candidate, that she *ought* to find out. Well, maybe she needs to hear that. Not just for your sake, but for others. You can tell her gently and politely, but tell her. And don't confuse rebuking her (with a deserved, well-timed rebuke) with being in any way uncharitable; it's not.
Why are you afraid to be direct? Why are you afraid at all? God delights in you, Jack. Be confident in his love. Be so confident in his love that, if someone insults you, (whether it's the RCIA director that assumes you know nothing about the Eucharist, or a gossipy lady muttering about you at church, or anyone else), that you don't mind it a bit, for your sake, but only pity them for their sake. “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
And stop expecting people to be subtle. People almost never are. When you go around expecting people to pick up on your hints, and they don't, then you feel unloved and hurt. If you stop expecting this and just say things outright (gently, if it's a negative thing, but directly and firmly), then I think you will get better responses. And if you don't get better responses, then at least the truth will be out in the open and you can decide whether another parish would be better for you.
On the probation thing:
Whoever said you had to be on probation for a year?! In the quote you provided, the bishops just said that candidates should have a period of probation in the community. As I understood it, the only thing they were talking about was the period in which a candidate goes through RCIA. There's no FORMAL state of “Probation” (unless your parish has invented one). The period of probation that the bishops were talking about was the period in between when a candidate formally seeks full communion with the church, and the time when the candidate is actually received into full communion. The bishops think there should be such a waiting (probationary) period, that is, that you don't immediately confirm someone the Sunday after they first approach you, but that this waiting period should not be the lengthy time that is required for a catechumen. So I don't know where this 'probation for a year' thing is coming from; it seems antithetical to the point the bishops were trying to make.
Why in the world would you think that you would get a priest in trouble for trying to help you? Do you really think your presence is so acidic, so destructive to others? By golly, Jack, if he's willing to help you, let him help you. Another quote for you:
“There is a glory to your life that your Enemy fears, and he is hell-bent on destroying that glory before you act on it. [This] will sound unbelievable at first; perhaps it will sound too good to be true; certainly you will wonder if it is true for you. But once ... you have begun to know it is true from the bottom of your heart, it will change everything.
The story of your life is the story of the long and brutal assault on your heart by the one who knows what you could be and fears it.
...
And that is why living from your glory is the only loving thing to do. You cannot love another person from a false self. You cannot love another while you are still hiding. How can you help them to freedom while you remain captive? You cannot love another unless you offer her your heart. It takes courage to live from your heart.” Waking the Dead, by John Eldredge, pp 33-34, 87. (My emphasis).
If you don't want to be Catholic because it's just a passing interest, and not a deep desire of your heart, then there's nothing wrong with stopping. But if that were the case, I don't think you would be so fed up, mad, and discouraged over the whole situation. See all these difficulties as an attack – not an attack by the people involved, who probably don't know any better – but an attack by the Enemy, who wants you not to have your heart's desire, wants you to be discouraged so that your glory isn't fully revealed. Fight back. Don't give up on what you really want. Have the courage to go after what you really want, even if it means doing something that frightens you.
anna, the probation thing is all over the sites i've seen but just can't find them now. the ones i have seen all say at least a year; but from when is, of course, the question. maybe if you have a chance you could drop me a note as to where to find your references.
ReplyDeleteas to the fear thing, i need to explain that further. not boasting but i have had the chance to speak before crowds of several thousands and have been interview on TV hundreds of times. the fear is for my family. how will they be treated if i challenge the status quo, even if it's wrong. my kids love catholic school and catholic church even at very young ages. my wife is very active in church. to do harm to them by making 'officialdom'angry does scare the hell out of me.
but yes on a personal level i do find what i said earlier about personal demeaning to be true. in that sense i should just push ahead, but it's a package deal, and i'm human and don't like to be 'put down'. i'll admit it. stay with me.
Jack,
ReplyDeleteEvery mention of "probation" that I've found in regards to RCIA is a quote from the national RCIA statues book:
"Those baptized persons who have lived as Christians and need only instruction in the Catholic tradition and a degree of probation within the Catholic community should not be asked to undergo a full program parallel to the catechumenate."
Here is one such website.
I'm not sure what to say about fearing for your family. I have no way of evaluating how likely it is that if you try to convince the RCIA director not to make you go through the full catechumenate program, that somehow your family will suffer. If you decide this is a serious concern, perhaps you could try going through RCIA at a different parish? If it is not a parish where your family normally goes, then I would think it would be unlikely for there to be inter-parish backlash against them, if someone gets upset with you. Plus, another parish might have an RCIA director who is already familiar with the difference between candidates and catechumens. Or, if you decide the chances of upset for your family are not too large, then perhaps you can go ahead and try to talk your current parish's RCIA director into not making you go through the full catechumenate.
I was trying to give you encouragement, not make you feel guilty for having trouble with being treated badly. Of course it's awful to be put down. But God knows where your heart is, even if others don't understand you. You are a son of God; you have His strength. Rely on him.
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ReplyDeleteJack,
ReplyDeleteI think this whole 'walk not crawl' thing is somewhat baptist in its overall view of things. Catholicism is in part, even for progressives, submission to the authority of the magisterium. Half my family are baptists and I like them very much. But there is clear and distinct choice here. Either you can submit to the magisterium on matters of faith, whatever that means for you, or you cannot.
If there were no submission to authority involved I wouldn't give a flying hoot if Benedict thinks that condoms are evil in Haiti. It's only because I am under his, Cardinal Sean's, and my parish priest's pastoral authority of my own free will; under their spiritual direction, that I give a flying you-know-what what they think about condoms in Haiti.
For me it is all well and good to sit around pondering fine points of dissent and debatng orthodox/ultramontance folks about whether or not condoms are good or bad or whatever.
But for you, if I were in your shoes, I would be thinking heart first, head second, and if the spiritual direction of B16, your bishop, and your parish priest is something you want to/are able to accept than you're all set.
But I do think there is a bit of spiritual humility and therefore 'crawling' involved in becoming a 'soldier of the pope'.
Baptists are so anti-authority that they end up creating one in things like the Southeastern Baptist Conference. Episcopals have a magisterium of their own, which pretty much centers upon who owns their parishes fee simple. But they are kind of in denial that they are in an authority structure until they get into a major disagreement like they're in now. Then you suddenly stop hearing anything from them about how we papists are servile to an earthly authority.
In any event, it's late, I'm ranting, and if you could hear me talking I am not in any way intonating or intending any rudeness (I hope). I just wanted to throw the opinion out there that I think some humility is involved in joining a church and submitting to the earthly authority of the church as the successor of Peter.
Therefore yeah, I don't care what VII or the Canon says. There is some humble crawling involved for a former proud Prot to join Rome.
Jack and Alice,
ReplyDeletePlease bear in mind, if I didn't care about Jack and the dilemma he's wrestling with, I never would have told such an intimate story. I don't like telling it to anyone.
jeff, your 'horror' makes mine look like good times; but one difference:you were treated terribly; i have had a few shots, but I've given some too as you know.sometimes jeff you apologize to me. for what!! friends can speak, should speak, their minds.
ReplyDeleteb, i see what you are saying, but 'crawling' can be painful. but like jeff you do not offend.
anna, if i had your 'fire' i might be a bishop by now.
Protestant: we find god, then find holiness.
catholic: we struggle for holiness, then find god.
Newman, of course.
i think i've burned about every bridge, but still struggle. i promise in two weeks this will all be over.
liam, thanks to you as well.
boy, am i lucky to have friends like you at this time!!!
jack
Sorry I'm coming late to this, but given your health, Jack, I can't imagine a priest who's worth his biomass would make you do RCIA, especially with the working knowledge you have of Catholicism already. I'd say it's time for a new parish.
ReplyDeleteGarpu, thanks for your suggestion. I already have two parishes willing to waive RCIA, but since wife and grandkids go to a particular church. I'm trying to go through that church. Think I have made progress.
ReplyDeleteDid you see my posting on Liam about music and tatoos. Apparently character was having Bach music tatooed on him. Please keep in touch.
BTW, my great nephew posted om Liam a couple of posts back and I posted after that. Might take a look. Would like your opinion..Jack
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